It started with Jasmine’s proposal to Honey Bee to date some older women for research and blogging purposes:
Jasmine: well… since dating older women is a popular trend now, i was just curious to know how it’s like. I thought you would too.
Honey bee: why don’t u date a schoolboy and find out?
Jasmine: i would…but that’s illegal.
Honey bee: i m not curious. Get one who’s 18.
Jasmine: even that… i won’t consider. Not even 23.
Honey bee: y?
Jasmine: not even 24. get it now?
Honey bee: ahh, immaturity
Jasmine: Why would I find someone to babysit when i have lots of real babies and kids to play with?
i am not into babysitting big babies
Honey bee: n someone said i was picky
u just took one big baby for ring shopping that day.
Jasmine: yea…that’s for charity. He was getting ready to propose to his gf and I got to pick out the ring. And he is 28, by the way.
Honey bee: 28 is still too young?
Jasmine: it’s not about numbers. You didn’t see how he acted at the jewelry store. i almost walked out.
Honey bee: really? what did he do?
Jasmine: You would think if someone is ready to propose and get a ring, he would have done some basic research. Come on… google about rings. Or at least find out what style she likes. I don’t mean to know the exact ring she wants. But at least have a basic idea.
Honey bee: yup i agree
does he have the ring size?
Jasmine: there…!!! you just nailed it.
no ring size!
Honey bee: haha
Jasmine: and we were there to buy an engagement ring…hello??? What was he thinking?
Honey bee: he was also wasting your time
Jasmine: sigh…steal a ring from her jewelry box.
measure her finger when she’s asleep.
cut her finger.
just do something
Honey bee: yeah… just do n imprint will do
Jasmine: sometimes little things show a lot about someone
Honey bee: it does
especially to women
Jasmine: it made me wonder… did he wake up one morning and thought it would be a great day to buy a ring?
Honey bee: women are more meticulous
maybe he did
Jasmine: ask u one question. is it love or compatibility? which one?
Honey bee: what do u mean?
Jasmine: when two people decide to be together, “fall” in love and get married. which one is more important? love or compatibility?
Honey bee: initially love
then some level of compatibility will develop or else they would fall out of love
Jasmine: aha
Honey bee: its like an orbital thing
boy meet girl
boy falls in love w girl
boy n girl dates
know more abt each other
helps each other grow.
if the balance tips, then sooner or later they will fall out
i think it is a complimentary relationship
Jasmine: see… something is really wrong with me…i have long since believe in that “routine”
although i know that’s how things work most of the time
Honey bee: not always
that’s a common way of looking at it
it could work in reverse
or it could start in the middle
there are not hard n fast rules
Jasmine: the problem with feelings and love is… they come and go
Honey bee: yup, the real test is after the feeling is gone
Jasmine: exactly…
Honey bee: companionship comes in
Jasmine: so the way i like to put it is: fall in love for the right reasons
Honey bee: u still enjoy each others company n do things together. well, sometimes u r not in control when it comes to love.
now it’s the question of logic vs feelings
Jasmine: yes and no. because if you know what you are looking for, you are naturally attracted to some people and not others
when you don’t know what you want, then you don’t stand a chance of falling in love for the right reasons.
Well folks out there, what’s your say on this?