Is He for Keeps? 10 Qualities of an Ideal Guy



1.) Optimistic and Great Sense of Humor

He has a positive outlook on life, even when things aren’t bright and sunny. He always makes you laugh with his great sense of humor. Most of the time, he is someone who is very fun and enjoyable to be with.

2.) Faithful/Loyal and Committed

He is someone who is reliable and trustworthy. You know deep down in your heart that you can always count on him for support, understanding, and comfort. Most importantly, you can trust him that he won’t deliberately do things or make decisions that would hurt you or the relationship/marriage.

3.) Great Communication Skills

He listens empathetically and patiently to the things you say without being judgmental. He tries to see things from your point of view before providing solutions or advice. He is able to get his message across and conveys his thoughts effectively.

4.) Respect You and Treat You as an Equal Partner

He values your opinions and genuinely wants to understand your thoughts. He discusses things with you before making important decisions. He respects you, your family, your friends, your choices, your career, and your space/privacy.

5.) Affectionate, Sensitive, and Romantic

He expresses his love and care for you through simple, affectionate gestures like hugs, kisses, holding hands, calls, sweet little notes/cards, saying “I love you,” and etc. He is attentive and sensitive to your needs, and he cheerfully does little things to make you happy and loved and cared for.

6.) Appreciative and Forgiving

He doesn’t take you or the relationship/marriage for granted. He appreciates you and the things you do for him on a daily basis. He doesn’t hold grudges when you unintentionally hurt his feelings or make mistakes. He forgives and moves on.

7.) Love You Just the Way You Are

You are good enough just the way you are – in fact, in his eyes, you are the best. He accepts you as a total package – the good and the not-so-good. He helps and encourages you to learn and grow to your fullest potential, instead of molding you to become the “dream girl” or “ideal wife” in his fantasy.

8.) Financially Responsible

Notice I didn’t mention “financially wealthy” – I said “financially responsible.” You don’t have to be a millionaire or make 500k a year. It’s not about how much money you make but rather how well you manage what you have – making wise financial decisions, plans, and investments.

9.) Passionate about Life

He has other passions in life other than you, for example his work, hobbies, interests, friends, family, religious beliefs, and etc. He takes good care of himself and doesn’t rely on you entirely for his happiness. He deeply believes and feels that life is wonderful and worth living and he’s committed to life long learning and self development.

10.) Confident and Competent

He is confident, but not arrogant. Men are born leaders, protectors, and providers (at least they deeply believe they are) – we all know that. It’s nothing new. However, in order for a woman to genuinely and deeply admire, adore, and respect her man, he has to be competent to begin with. That doesn’t mean he has to perfect (everybody makes mistakes) or has supernatural powers. But he kind of has to know what he’s doing.


14 thoughts on “Is He for Keeps? 10 Qualities of an Ideal Guy

  1. My man has all these 10 qualities and more – I am so lucky! All my previous relationships have been with men who were not as described above. Finally at age 35 I met someone I deserve. Never settle for anything less, ladies!

  2. Me too! And I didn’t meet the man of my dreams until I was 46, when I had two teenage daughters. I have been so incredibly lucky, he has supported me throughout illness, unemployment, family difficulties, but has remained solid, dependable and always loving. I didn’t think those internet dating sites worked but I would advise anyone to give it a try but be patient!

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  4. You forgot to say ‘not an addict, abuser, or crazy’. It should go without saying, but it doesn’t. So I’m saying it. Anyone with those qualities doesn’t get to have nice girls like me.

  5. im reading this article because i have to choose between two guys. but the problem is, one of them has some of the criterias and another guy has the other half. so, should i just leave both of them and find the third?

    • If you are looking for a soulmate or someone to develop a long term relationship, stop using logic to assess which one is for you. Instead let your heart do the choosing. Listen to what your heart tells you when you in the guys company. It will fall into place nicely.

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