1.) She seems to appear around you or in front of you “coincidentally” a lot. She wants you to notice her. [You bumped into her at your favorite Starbucks three days in a row. Or “Didn’t I just see her down the hallway a minute ago? Why do I see her in the library now, again?”]
2.) She makes herself available to you most of the time. [She gives you her number, and she always answers your calls. She also sounds happy, if not thrilled, to hear from you.]
3.) She listens attentively when she’s in a conversation with you, and she remembers everything you said. [Everything means from tiny things, like your favorite drink and favorite color, to BIG things, like your favorite sports team and political views.]
4.) She doesn’t seem quite herself when she’s around you – can’t relax and self-conscious. [She’s worried about her hair, her make up, her dress, the way she sits, and etc. If she’s usually talkative, she may be quiet and shy around you.]
5.) Does she find an excuse or ask you a trivia question just to talk to you? [“Do you know where I can buy that book/pen/CD/candy bar/coffee mug (could be anything…)?”]
6.) She rarely answers your questions with a Yes or No, because she wants you to know her deep and well. She will intentionally but casually disclose personal information that she wants you to know or drops “subtle” hints that she’s interested in going out with you. [When you ask her if she likes sushi, she replies, “Oh, salmon rolls are my favorites! Did you know that there’s a new Japanese restaurant in town?”]
7.) Her jealousy glands kick in when you talk to other girls or when you mention about your ex girlfriends/wives. [Does she change the topic abruptly when you mention about your ex girlfriend?]
8.) She flirts with you and doesn’t mind friendly, gentle touches (a touch on the shoulder, hand or arm, or a brief hug). Most girls value their “personal space.” If she doesn’t like you, she would not let you intrude “her space.” However, if she doesn’t mind when you sit close to her or your friendly touches, that’s a good sign.
9.) She seems curious about your relationship or marriage status. This one is self-explanatory. [She asks your buddies if you have a girlfriend. She checks your ring finger for a wedding band. She asks if you are seeing anyone. Or she simply wants to know what you are doing on a Saturday night.]
10.) She does nice little things for you to make you happy. She is genuinely interested in the things you do and cares about your feelings and moods. Why? Because your emotions affect her.
Many men often lament, “Why are women so difficult to read?” “Why are they so confusing?” “Why do they send mixed signals?” “Why can’t they just say things directly?”
Well, I’m totally with you, guys. Women are confusing and complicated, very much indeed. However, we, women, can’t figure out you guys either. Which is precisely why I had stopped trying to understand the Martians and decipher their secret codes and hidden messages since long, long time ago. It does make the analytical process a lot easier and less complicated, because there simply isn’t one. The theory I have adopted: If he/ she likes you, he/she’ll care enough to tell you (one day…). If he/she doesn’t, you have got nothing to lose to begin with (means you aren’t that important to him or her anyways). If you really want to know and you are getting impatient, the easiest way is: ask him/her now. Be brave. 🙂 Good luck!
He Says ... She Says ... 
I use to think that its bullshit that a girl looks at your finger to look for a ring… but after a personal experience… damnnit !! They really do !!!
yeah they do, that’s the first thing they look for
I used to think some of this was bull but I looked for the signs and now Ive had a girlfriend for about 3 months.
Hi Bryce C, Good on ya!
Hi,
I saw this and I have a question: I know this girl, she always hugs me whenever she sees me (and whenever we depart), and she always tells me how smart she thinks I am. Now, I want to give you as full a picture as possible- she’s a little older than I am (about 5 years, I think), and does seem busy an awful lot. She always greets me with a smile and a wave when she’s across the room- she’s terribly sweet and I obviously really like her. Whenever we chat, it seems like our shortest conversations are at least 15 or 20 minutes.
Do you think I am getting the wrong impression? I don’t know what all of these things mean- I do not want to mess up our budding friendship by hitting on her. On the other hand, I think she’s wonderful.
I got cut off- she’s generally friendly with everyone, though. I mean, I haven’t seen her hug othe guys or anything like that- she also tells me things like she talks to a lot of other people but does not have very many friends, or people she hangs out with.
Hi Alex F, some insights to your comments:
she may be just treating you like a buddy – someone she trust. Test water. Have you ever tried dating her? Maybe invite her to coffee? Movies? There is no tell tale sign at this moment that indicates that she is really interested.
Does she brush her hair when she talks to you? Or give you an extra long gaze? Some girls have watery eyes when she gaze at you while you talk. It is a good indication of interest. Does she come into your personal space (3 feet radius)?
Hi!!
Hi well theirs this girl that I see in Spanish, P.E., and Biology and at the beginning of the school year we never talked to each other once we knew each other and then as time progressed we started talking. She looks at me when I’m talking and pays attention. She jokes around with me and makes me feel stupid whenever I argue over her and I can’t say anything except whatever. What do you guys think this means? Does she like me or are we meant to be just friends?
perhaps she is being friendly or perhaps she is flirting with you. Be a friend and take it from there…test her with litle little gestures….
Hi,
I am also facing a situation. It is a little complicated.I am actually living in an appartment and actually doing masters far away from home town. Until now it was this routine that me and my other friends (who also live in an appartment in the same building as mine) cook food together. But recently, there is a girl who came who is the closest friend of one of my friends and joined our dinner group. Now her attitude is what I am concerned about a little.
She is very friendly with everyone else but when it comes to me, she just give me cold feelings. You know rotating eyes and giving cold answers sometimes (not always, as today I asked something and she gave a polite answer but she is never the first one to ask or say anything to me). She only asks me or talk to me when she wants some work done in the kitchen… i-e to cut onions etc….may be because others are all senior than us and she is also my class mate as well and no one else. Also not even look at me when talking in a group. It now seems to me (to the highest degree) that she just ignores me. Also she tries not to look at me……it somestimes become unbearable…. and the biggest thing to be considered is that when anyone comes to the common room for cooking together, she is always pleased to meet them and is delighted. But when it is me she just looks and does not say anything and then starts to do her work again. …..???Is it the signal that she just wants to get rid of me……ok we just met two days ago and we do not have any history of ever meeting or seeing each other before….you might ask why, cuz she is my class mate…but she just transferred from somewhere else….I also do not look that bad…(physically and face wise as well), I am attractive in looking and in my physical build too so what could be the reason……. anyone is welocme to comment….I think a girl can better answer for this situation…..how can I confirm (without asking) whether she really wants to get rid of me!!
If I like someone I tend to ignore them and give them cold shoulders just because I don’t wanna be caught, I’m kinda shy laid back personality, it depends I think, some will be too loud to get noticed, do an experiment pretend she don’t exist, try not to show up, she MIGHT make her own way to come near u, but if she continue to give u cold shoulders and act she don’t care about it means she really DON’T LIKE U! lol!
Hi..
I’m sure you have some feelings for her right?? Maybe you can try breaking the ice by asking her how was her day or try to build up some conversation. Don’t act too flirty or else she would get the wrong message and then totally cut you off. Just be yourself and be nice. If the guys are taunting her, act angry and try to like be protective of her. If she still doesn’t get the thing that you are trying to be her friend, she is definitely not the girl for you. Then, move on.. That simple.. 🙂
P.S: I’m a girl.
um, yeah, two things are possible. cold attitude so that you pay more attention to her, and well, the other thing is that…..well, she wants you to get out.
Hi, I was reading this and wanted some advice.
I’ve been dating this girl that I know practicly nothing about because my friend hooked us up, I like her alot, and she shows some of the signs, like, she looks into my eyes but no one elses, and loves to talk to me, but whenever I try to hug her or kiss her she kinda avoids it, like after school I tried to give her a kiss, but ahe went ahead before I had the chance to even talk to her. Any advice?
this is freaky, i totally do all of these…and never noticed it.
Hi
Iv got a situation that i need help with. Theres this girl in my english class that i have feelings for. I occasionally catch her glancing at me and she sometimes laughs at things i say (random things). Althought i have never spoken to her im pretty sure she likes me. To make matters a bit better i recently moved and am now living across the road from her and noticed that when she saw me coming out my door in the morning her face lit up. But latly she hasnt been glancing at me much. Any advice?
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It’s spring, and there must be something in the air around here… I’m writing because I’ve got a strange case on my hand here. I’m a 24 year old male that has recently developed mild interest in a 20 year old at work. I’m going to call her Sue from now on, and her best friend Peggy. Recently, I saw Peggy visiting Sue at our work place. I just said hi to them and Sue’s friend Peggy tells me out of nowhere “You’re probably going to begin to wonder if we’re gay as much as I visit Sue here at work.” Peggy started talking to me, and asking about my major and stuff, as I’m still in college. While Sue and I had just started to have conversations of any substance maybe a week or two before this strange event, lately greater substance has evolved. In general Sue tends to be a bit reserved. Right after this strange conversation with Peggy in the presence of Sue, Sue is talking to me much more and opening up about various things, including how she spends a bunch of her free time with her friend Peggy, sometimes to the point where they don’t get along. She has started talking about where she grew up and other various things, so it’s as if we’re peeling back an onion here- layer by layer. Her body language indicates she likes me (I’m not saying in love with, just that she is interested in what I have to say and my general physical presence at least catches her attention), but I’m hesitant to pursue anything because I never really felt anything for her until I got to know her a little bit better. I am just curious if anyone else out there has had a modestly reserved girl just start opening up out of a seemingly strange event such as happened recently with her friend Peggy. Or also from women out there, I’d love to hear if you think maybe Sue had just started talking about me to Peggy a bit and that’s why Peggy would say something so strange to strike a more substantive conversation with me? I’m naturally more extraverted than introverted so it’s not unusual for me to start conversations with any women. It has been a while since I’ve dated anybody under 21, so there could be some immaturity that is involved that is clouding my assessment of the situation. I’d love to hear ideas!
Well, Jeff, ask her out on a date and find out if she likes you. As for maturity, women usually mature faster than men by an average of 5 years. So you will most probably be going out with a 20 year old girl with the maturity level of age 25. All the best to you.
Thanks i really appreciate this topic.nice one.
A girl in my life tells me she’s into me but later tell me she’s not that she was only joking.
“The theory I have adopted: If he/ she likes you, he/she’ll care enough to tell you”
If you feel you are so right in thinking this, what if the person that likes you feels the same way? Eventually someone has to step up to the plate, but can you really always expect the other person to do it instead of yourself? What if the most perfect person that would suit also felt this way? It makes sense that they are the most perfect person to suit you, because they feel the same way about things as you do. Both of you would not bother to tell the other that you like them, both with the belief that the other would do it. But in truth, both of you like each other and would never know. Huge opportunity goes to huge waste.
i love a girl who says that she doesnot like me. But she keeps on looking at me. I sent her a number of letter , she rarely replied them. And always tells that she doesnot like me but can’t stop looking at me. She didnot tell anything about these letters, nor about the red rose that i kept on her bag , nor about the things that i wrote on her desk, nor about the picture of heart that i made on her desks, to her brother. But last week when i put a empty paper on her bag , she told about this blank paper to her brother. After that , i again sent her a letter but this time wasnot empty and in reply , she scolded me, told that she doesnot like me, she warned me not to touch her bag anymore. I am confused , why she told only about the blank paper to her brother but not about other letters that i sent to her? Why she looks at me if she doesnot love me?
Somebody plz answer
Hi Binaya,
Move on…
I am 14 and I like this girl that is 15 she often leans on my with he elbow and, wanted me to sit with he at the movies when I went with a large group of people. She talks to me about her ex sometimes so I don’t know if I’m like a just a guy that she wants an opinion on or wants a sincere thought .
Any advice would help new feedback as soon as possible
Me and this girl went to a concert along with two other couples. We’re both single. Not sure if she likes me but she kept playfully pushing me and shoving me every time id tease her. Not just that I caught her staring at me one point during the concert for like five seconds. Furthermore on the car ride home she put her legs on my lap. But then before we dropped her off she told me randomly she wanted to teach me how to dance. I asked her when and she said idk I’ll txt u. It’s been five days and she hasn’t yet. Does she like me and what should I do now?
Hey I realise this article was posted some years ago but if you can give me some advice I’d really appreciate it…
I work as a security guard in a shopping centre and have made friends with many of the female staff there, a hand full of them seem to flirt with me on a daily basis, I’ve even noticed some becoming jealous (or seem to be jealous of each other) when they see another flirting with me. I do not intentionally flirt with them but rather just be a friend someone they can laugh with ask for advice or even at times be a shoulder for them to cry on.
Recently I was attacked (not bashed I’m a senior blue belt in taekwondo and can defend myself) I received a black eye and 2 broken ribs, all my female friends sympathized for me however one of them has gone a few steps further asking how it happened with her hand placed on my upper arm told me I’m a good man and don’t deserve this, 4 days later she approached me placed her hand on my ribs gently rubbing them asking how they were I told her they’re very sore I can’t cough sneeze or even laugh she then said to me that she really feels for me and hates seeing me in pain (whilst staring into my eyes not wanting to look else where).
Every day when she sees me her eyes light up she gives me a huge smile n a cute little wave to say hello, I think she’s the sweetest girl I’ve ever met but wouldn’t dare tell her so as she’s quite a few years younger than me, and although she’s not the prettiest girl in the jewellers (yet far from ugly) I see her as extremely beautiful (her face her body but most importantly I can see her beautiful heart)
My dilemma is I’m starting to develop some serious emotions for her, I do try to hide this as I don’t want to make her uncomfortable around me but sometimes I feel like I’ve slipped up n almost let the cat out of the bag n I’m waiting for the moment where I do blow it completely. What should I do?? Do I bite the bullet n ask her out or play it cool take things slow n see where it may lead us?? From experience I either ask em out n fail drastically or I wait n they loose interest… Please help..
I realized most of these comments are from last year and I am really sorry as I had taken a hiatus and went up to the mountains to ponder the deeper meaning of life.
What I would do if I were you, Dann, is to pluck up some courage and talk to her. Afterall, we only live once. What’s the worst thing that can happen?
I’ve been seeing this girl for about 5 months. When we first started dating she also had a bf at home. Now she has broken it off with the bf and me as well. But she still hugs me when she comes into my room to see me hugs me when she is leaving to go home. Still tells me she loves me but won’t kiss me. I would really like to know what I should do. Should I still be friends with her? I would love nothing more than to restart our relationship now that there isn’t a 3rd party involved. I did do a couple stupid moves while she was with her bf. I don’t remember exactly what I did on her FB while I was drunk but she ended up deactivating her account for a few days. I also text her some stupid goodbye bull crap but of course didn’t mean any of it! I am at a loss what should I do??
Well there is a girl I have always had as a friend… However lately it seems she is getting “closer” to me. When we talk, she is never distracted, gives me her undivided attention, laughs when I’m funny, smiles often, and always looks me directly in my eyes. One morning not long ago we were both at a church function and I made a comment that was actually not the vest idea… Well she said, thanks Chase, you really know how to give a girl a compliment” as if what I had said really effected her. Well I tried to recover by bringing her a cup of ‘joe’ and I said often times its not the words that matter, but the actions, for actions are more valuable than words. She seemed to be partially swayed with this technique (but I still felt like an idiot) well the next day she tells me how horrible the coffee was… (almost seemed as if she was trying to suggest something) so me being the quick-to-catch-on character that I am I said, oh well I didn’t make that coffee… But I tell ya what, meet me here tomorrow morning and I will personally make your coffee – wow I am such a genius! Smiling face with open mouth and cold sweat Well not really! So that night some of the guys had some issues and I was up until 4am needless to say I missed my 7:30 am appointment. But when I got there she was prepped and premed to the extreme. She already had her coffee and there was not much else I could do except hold my head in shame and leave! Oh I was so distraught! And later on that evening she mentions one more time, “so Chase!” she exclaims, “you planning on making me some coffee??” I respond most certainly – whatever I have to do, I cannot be satisfied with my failure and nothing will make recompense for me except making it right.
back to my story;
So the next morning she shows up around 7:45 we were there with a few other friends of mine… Which not long later they left leaving me and her alone for a few moments… She lingered, taking her time with everything. We already had plenty of time to chat, eat breakfast drink coffee and leave. It was clearly unnecessary to remain for that period of time. Two separate individuals came, drank coffee, ate breakfast and left, as well as a third a little later… And our time at the table eclipsed all others. When I looked into her eyes something just slightly noticeable; a glow! There was a glow in her eyes… I knew something was different buy I could explain it until I peered for an extra moment. It was at that time I noticed a soft glow emanating from the depths of her eyes. What’s interesting was her facial expression, kind of a gentle grin, as if hiding perhaps how euphoric the moment shared together actually was. Then 3 other girls came to sit, and as soon as the moment had begun it seemed to come to an end.
– there is more to the story, I know I am painting a distinct picture here… However it is necessary to know the intricacies of a woman’s behavior.
And now to my problem;
– I already have a girlfriend, whom I am rather serious with… But maybe this girls interactions with me is only a figment of my imagination.
In two months I will be leaving the country to meet the “woman of my dreams” – if any y’all believe in prayer, pray for me to make the best decision.
* Thanks for the advice, God bless
*Chaser
a girl fancies me but she always trys to turn me away i fancie her aswell should i ask her what do you guys think?
As if asking a Martian, is gonna get a woman a straight answer, no way Jose, Martians never say how they feel, unless of course it’s in an intimmate moment, and even then, the words are as fleeting as the moment.
Great article!
This girl used to flirt with me all the time. She talked to me, and even hugged me. A year ago, she stopped. BUT, this might be b/c one of her friends likes me(who I don’t like) and she thinks there is no game for her. She still talks to me, but not in the same way. She also got a boyfriend(IDK if its the Jealousy game or not)
I guess I should just move on…